You can’t always change your circumstances, but you can change your attitude.
Want to be happier? Begin by being good to yourself. That may sound self-evident, but too many people skip this step and try to make themselves happy by chasing ever-higher goals, or holding themselves to ever-greater standards of perfection.
To make yourself happy, you need to develop a positive attitude.
In fact, the happiest people go out of their way to treat themselves right and they do something nice for themselves each day. If you want to be happier, just add pleasure or meaning to your life (assuming your pleasures or purposes do not harm you or another person). You’ll discover that you’ll not only be happier in the moment, you’ll also increase your ability to be happier in the future.
Your mind is a powerful thing. If you allow yourself to keep a positive state of mind, your attitude will follow.
Start Dedicating Time To Meaningful Activities
What you do every day matters, but WHY you do what you do matters even more. So quit doing just what you’re able to do; figure out what you were made to do, and then do more of it. And if you only have ten minutes a day to spare, no problem – make those fifteen minutes meaningful.
Sleep More To Reduce Negative Emotions
The BPS Research Digest has explored a study that proves sleep affects our sensitivity to negative emotions. Using a facial recognition task over the course of a day, the researchers studied how sensitive participants were to positive and negative emotions. Those who worked through the afternoon without taking a nap became more sensitive late in the day to negative emotions like fear and anger.
Change Your Attitude Towards Happiness
To change your attitude, switch the word “content” with “happy.” You can exist in a state of contentedness without everything around you being perfect. When you are content, you can face hardships with a can-do attitude; you can experience both joy and sadness without losing your equilibrium. When you are content, you feel that you have all you need inside of yourself to thrive, even in the face of challenges.
There are many other ways to develop a positive attitude. Here are a few to help you get started.
• Listen to your internal dialogue. When faced with a negative thought, turn it around to make it into a positive thought. (For example, “I am no good at this!” could be changed to, “Maybe this is not one of my strengths, but I’ve tried my hardest, and I am skilled in many other things.”)
• Interact within positive environments and with positive people. Do things with people who reinforce you in a positive way. Go places that have special meanings, positive memories, or associations.
Your actions and reactions toward other individuals can determine the end result of the interaction. For example, if you are receptive and respectful to individuals’ opinions, they in return could be more open to what it is you have to say.
Gratitude has been shown to be the ultimate ticket to a happy life. Thankful and grateful feelings lower stress, alleviate depression and form a sort of feedback loop. The more you practice gratitude, the more you will find things to be grateful for in your life. This then leads you to appreciate and realize exactly how much goodness is in your life. It is difficult to be unhappy if you are consumed with counting the many blessings in your life. Even something as simple as a safe place to sleep or food to eat is worth being thankful for because not everyone is fortunate enough to have those necessities.
Take responsibility for your actions, thoughts, and feelings. No one can make you feel any way that you do not want to feel.
Accept that no one is perfect and that includes you. Be proud of your accomplishments and the hard work you’ve done. Use the moments when you think you have not succeeded as you’ve wanted, as a learning experience.
Make Small Changes To Create Big Ones
Work on a project that demands your skills and abilities. If you have trouble coming up with one, then look for something important to work on that will help someone in need. Little acts like this bring joy because you are giving joy to others.
Appreciate The Small Stuff
Get pleasure out of the simple things in life. Laughter is one of the most powerful mood enhancers. Allow yourself to laugh.
A sunny day, lunch with a friend, anything. Practice appreciating the little things, and you’ll find yourself happier in general. Regularly pause and take note of a good thing you’re experiencing in the moment to find yourself happy more often.
A journal is a good way to organize your thoughts, analyze your feelings, and make plans. And you don’t have to be a literary genius or write volumes to benefit. It can be as simple as jotting down a few things you are appreciative of before you go to bed. It’s the process that counts.
Take A Deep Breathe
You’re tense, your shoulders are tight, and you feel as though you just might “lose it.” We all know that feeling.
Instinct may tell you to take a long, deep breath to calm yourself down.
Turns out, that instinct is a good one. According to Harvard Health, deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress.
Let Go; Forgive
Holding onto grudges may be holding back your happiness. Bitterness can compromise your sense of peace and negatively impact your health. If joy is what you’re after, forgive others. Persistence + Love = Success.